This Could Be Heaven

“Everyone is doing the best they can.”

Everything we create in life begins in the mind, first, so why not create heaven.

It’s time to get familiar with the verb, “valuing.” Certainly, you’ve already become familiar with a “gratitude journal.” It’s the idea of journaling about various aspects of your life that you appreciate, that you’ve previously overlooked. The intention is to recapture feelings of happiness and satisfaction with life.

Plus, developing a “gratitude journal” holds the added value of not having to concern yourself with someone accidently reading it. In fact, leave it out intentionally and watch what happens. I mean, it couldn’t hurt your case.

Valuing basically involves a similar process. Since we can only focus on a limited amount of information at any one time, perhaps focusing on what you value instead of what you don’t, might help. But don’t fall into the trap of expecting others to join in with you just because you think it might be a good idea. That’s too close to manipulation. Lead the way for yourself, and if what you’re doing really does hold value, the right person will eventually notice and show you their appreciation. But even if they don’t, you’d be expanding aspects of your awareness that you really, truly value, and could that be harmful?

Wayne dyer – an American self-help authoronce told a story that explained this idea that “what we focus our attention on – tends to expand – and becomes our life.” You might want to test this out for yourself.

A Personal Pace


It’s time to consider developing a new “Personal Pace” for yourself. It’s time. Start being “true” to yourself. Take an honest look at your life and your career. You’ve got some difficult decisions to make. Find your pace and find self-care. You’ll be happier.

It’s easy to push yourself, only to realize at some future point that you’re feeling miserable. Your timing might not be right. If you were a professional athlete, pushing yourself might be a regular part of your routine. Feeling a great deal of support from your team might also be routine. Mandatory recovery time and creating a “performance state” is also part of a competitive routine.

But professional athletes are also very fortunate to be playing a game for a living.

The capacity of the familiar

The very things in life that are most familiar to us are the very things that put us in our zone and make us feel calm, relaxed, happy, focused, and confident. At least for some of us. For others, those daily familiarities put us into a terribly negative zone. The problem is that what is familiar is not always good for us. While we’re in our flow zone is when we can accomplish and achieve. The problem seems clear. The very things and activities that put us in our zone are often misaligned with our ability to achieve what’s important to us.

Flow & The Rhythms of Nature

I’m not recommending that you lose your career, ditch your ambitions, or drop all your luxurious possessions. At the same time, I am wondering how we can – if it’s even a good idea – prioritize these motivations lower and simultaneously elevate our motivations to connect with nature. Nature in it’s the broadest sense, not merely trees and frogs. Consider emotions, beliefs, expectations, the mind, our sense of purpose, and of spirit.

Spend some time figuring out a way to take breaks long before you think you need them. When we wait for our rational mind to trigger this, we’ve already pushed ourselves for too long. Try this as an experiment for yourself, if you can.

Who Am I? Who Are You?

I read recently that our identity likely began long before we were even born. Our parents gave a great deal of consideration to our names. They thought about what it meant to them, and what associations they had with potential names. They wondered whether other kids would find it easy to tease you about your name. Some people even allowed historical references to enter into the decision making process.

Rhythmic Undercurrent

There is a rhythmic undercurrent to life. It can’t really be explained, only sensed. It’s there when we fail. Again, when we’re suffering, and even when we’re smiling or feeling on top of the world. It is definitely a part of what makes miracles.

It’s important, perhaps essential to align our goal-related efforts with larger more pervasive concerns. This facilitates our Rhythmic Undercurrent, emotionally. Life itself speaks to us in various ways. Through our dreams, during meditations, life lessons and other experiences.

Rebelling against this stronger “stream of life” may just cause us grief, turmoil, and frustration. Allowing ourselves to flow with the natural current of life can prove fruitful and create miracles. As long as we are simultaneously being in alignment with our values.

Let Your Emotions Be Your Guide.

Spectrum of Discipline

What’s your process? What do you do once you realize you’re out of sync? “Go do what you already know how to do.” Dottie Pepper recalls advice given to her by PGA professional Judy Rankin.

It’s not true that we’re either disciplined or not. There is a spectrum of discipline. Most of us share a degree of discipline. However, occasionally we strive for increased success and therefore, greater degrees of discipline than our comfort zone allows. These are times that we often find the challenge too much for us. Despite great aspirations, we quickly feel “out of sorts” because we are out of our comfort zone. And because we feel out of sorts, we allow ourselves to conclude that the situation or circumstances are more than we can manage. As we are discovering, if discipline was easy, we’d all do it. But it’s not.

Discipline in professional sports is often thought of as “maintaining routines that help us generate high performance.” But being flexible is just as essential for high-level performance in sports and in other endeavors. Our objective is to discover something that we’re certain is working well for us, then pick up the frequency of “what’s working well.” This should lead to the high performance we’re after.

In reality, it’s not so simple. There is a balance to be had. We usually struggle with either discipline or flexibility. Taking up this struggle is what ultimately will work in our favor,  at least in the long-run.

If we’re after our peak performance, it’s just smart to routinize it, right? That’s why athletes may sometimes appear superstitious. We find something new that has seemingly had a positive effect. It’s helped us to perform and to win, we believe. Logically, we want to build that “something new” into our routines and keep doing it. Yet inflexibility can create just as many issues for us as a lack of discipline.

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High-Performance Culture

A “High-Performance Culture” has to do with a collective vision. It entails that many, if not all, people within a specific culture hold to this same or similar vision. In this case, a collective idea of becoming a high-performance culture through a process of personal and professional improvement. – Richard W. Anton

I am noticing a new pattern with an increasing number of people with whom I work. Although more clients show up for concerns with their marital situation, anger, and addictive behavior, an expanding number of people are showing up to improve personally or professionally. Personal and professional improvement seems to be developing into an increasingly valuable endeavor.